It wasn’t my fault
Tuesday September 02, 2008

Hello again,
I just want to add one tiny but important thing to my last email. I guess it could go at the end of the letter below. I am amazed to see on reading this letter again that I did not once say directly that I am angry. I can feel it as the subtext, but nothing directly stated. I guess this is not so surprising, given my history. So please add this to the bottom:

I want to say directly that I am angry with you, Mom. I have been angry with you for the last 2 years. And now that my anger is finally lessening, I can state this truth. What you did to me was wrong, and it wasn’t my fault.

It wasn’t your fault.