Thank you for your amazing courage
Monday May 19, 2008
Dear Dr. Miller,
About twenty years ago a therapist suggested I read your book. I felt like a prisoner in my own childhood. I purchased the book, took it home and read the three lectures crying, and saying I knew I was not crazy. The next day I read it again until my book fell apart. Thank you so much for being the real beginning of my recovery.
I wanted my drug addicted brother to read the book. Instead for months I would read it to him(he lived in NY). We re- constructed our childhood together. Finally, I asked him why he would not allow himself to read the book I sent to him. He said ,”I am not gifted.” I cried and hurt for my deeply wounded brother. Finally he read it and again we talked and talked based on your wonderful, freeing book.
I am sad to say that twelve years ago my brother could not deal with his overwhelming pain and completed suicide. His teen-age son found him.
Thank you for giving me the courage to admit my pain. I am still working on my incest issues but I am not scared any more.
Thank you is not enough to say to you. You are part of my inner world.
Blessings to you, A. K.
AM: You write: “Thank you for giving me the courage to admit my pain. I am still working on my incest issues but I am not scared any more.”
It is exactly feeling the pain and understanding, knowing the causes of this pain that gives you the courage. It liberates you from the fear of things that DID happen in the PAST but no longer are happening and thus no longer must be feared. In your short sentence you describe how effective therapy usually works. Congratulations.